Infatuations vs Love

                 "'Infatuated' = possesed by an unreasoning passion or attraction.

'Love' = A person who is an object of deep or intense affection or attraction. "

definitions from The Free Dictionary.

Am I infatuated or in love? On many times, the distinction between these two words blurred as we get overwhelmed by our feelings. Like a deer in the headlights, I usually get caught in awkward situations whereby I just can't seem to say what I want to say. Worse, on countless occassions, I just can't seem to talk at all (the movies just love exploiting that) !

I have experienced a handful of crushes in the past, and let me tell you, they ain't pleasant. Having crushes can't be quite annoying and often distracting. I have read facebook statuses of friends where they just openly confessed that they love this person so much, and so convinced that "she is the one"! I usually feel pity for these guys. Despite the shortcomings of having a crush, there is a bright side. Crushes give me something to look forward to everyday. A purpose to be in certain place. A motivation to wake up and face the day!

Sadly, feelings like these can be short lived. We can get discouraged when the other party just doesn't care. A one sided love.

Here's my real problem, I keep switching crushes. After each dissapointment, a new crush just appear out of the blue! It's like I want to be in love for the sake of it! Here you go, a characteristic of an infatuation.

People who are in love work for common goals. They share dreams, values and cooperate. Infatuations on the other hand, they rely on superficial things. They are founded on an obscured view of romance. A crush usually involves being in the same age, curious, loneliness, physical looks, or other qualities that serve as a basis for your passion. In most occassions, you might just ignore the faults we see in others, and our minds just amplify those seemingly good qualities. And if you examine yourself deeply, you will find that your feelings are working only for your own interest rather than for other person.

Infatuation is grounded by Fantasy whereas Love is grounded by Reality

Sigh~ I guess I have to be more patient and self aware. I need to make sure that my feelings aren't superficial but based on true love.